If someone is horrible to you, if they completely cross all boundaries and take liberties galore with your emotions... how long would you let them go at it?
If there was someone in your life who had absolutely NO respect for you, even if they were family... how long would you let it go on?
If cruelty and mania was all they ever gave you, but they expected you to take it ad infinitum because you were 'blood'... how long would you let it last?
In other words... if you had a family member who who could only treat you terribly, ONLY... someone who literally says things like, "I hope you suffer...", someone who lives so far from reality that they've built themselves an entire world out of the denial of their own behaviour... would you let them ruin your life as long as they wanted to?
If a family member built their entire life on causing you grief and anguish...would you indulge their sickness?
Do you believe in personal boundaries? I do. Do you believe that family is not always about love? I believe family is who you love in this lifetime and who loves you back, not necessarily blood relations.
I am declaring myself free from this day forward. Since they do not make a proper law that divorces one from family members that you don't marry, I have decided to orphan myself on one side.
Ding dong the witch is dead. You will never come near me again with your poison tongue. You will never have the chance again to humiliate me and degrade me as you've done all my life. I am divorcing you. I am leaving you permanently. As of this date forward: you do not exist in my life.
You had your chance. I wanted one thing and one thing only. An apology for the lifetime of shit you gave me... for the cruelty, the deliberate humiliation that you put me through. You never gave me that apology. You did the only thing you know how to do: hurt, viciously. You take anyone's weak points and save them for the day when you can turn that knowledge on them. My memories are real. Your memories are selective. In your world, you're a buddha. In my world we call people like you 'sick'.
Your bullshit letters are thrown out un-opened, immediately. I don't want your sickness. You've done enough damage to your own two children, you can stear very clear of mine!
You write them out of your life and let karma handle the rest. This way your hands are clean and they reap what they have sown alone.
Been there, Done that... with 3/4's of my family on both sides. After what was done to my grandparents... They got lucky my then boyfriend didn't rip into them like he wanted to (My best friend).
On my father's side, all I have left is my brother and my aunt. With my father's death, we are getting closer...
yeah, BTDT, we all have relatives that can make us crazy and IMO, blood is not thicker than water, just a LOT harder to get out of the carpet {wry grin}. You do what you have to girl, more power to you for not letting her craziness run and/or ruin yours and your family's life. Zen s
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ladybard96
The camera doesn't make a bit of difference. All of them can record what you are seeing. But, you have to SEE. Ernst Haas, *************** My Gallery- [link]
Honey, i know how you feel, believe me. Let me tell you a story, ok?
I have an uncle who I rarely see except for funerals and he was a total ass to me some months back.
When I went home in July for my grandmother's funeral he had the nerve to corner me in a room and tell me that I was fat and unattractive and that I'd never get a guy unless I started to dress like my sister and wear make up. Now basically my 19 year old sister acts like a tease and a dresses like a tramp.
My uncle went on to tell me that it didn't matter how nice I am and talented I am or how much personality I have, if me and my sister are in a room together everyone will gravate to her stictly because she's prettier.
Then he had the nerve to tell me that if I lost weight and started to act like "normal" girls he'd reward me by taking me on a trip somewhere nice.
What did I do? I threw a fit and bitched to my friends. Then I did nothing. I haven't changed the way I act and I won't change my apparance for anyone except myself.
I saw him again this past month and I all but ignored him and he left me alone and didn't up the last conversation at all.
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And it's no one's fault / There's no black and white / Only you and me / On this endless night / And as the hours run away / With another life / Oh, darling can't you see / It's now or never
Long story short. *stands and applauds you for something I should have done* Very brave of you. I bet we all could learn a lesson or two from this one. As hard as it might be, family does not deserve respect just because they are family. You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.Bravo darling. Best of luck.
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“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
Oh girl, I know exactly what you are talking about. Many of my 'blood ties' are that description to the letter. It truly takes guts to sever all ties just like that. I grew up with ppl like that, chose friends like that; and then one day I got the sense knocked into me by an angel that I now call lover . It took something reality shattering to wake me up and find my world poisoned by vicious people and diseased emotions. I am so proud of you. It hurts, and it can eat at you, but stay true to your decision!! That can sometimes be the hardest part. If there is no repentance, there is no reason for it to begin all over again with the next generation. Thank you for posting this blog!! I am sure you have inspired a lot of people who will read this Thank you. Thank you!
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So dear I love him that with him, All deaths I could endure. Without him, live no life. ~W.S. Romeo & Juliet~ -What do you care about my opinion? If you're a real painter, you'll paint because you can't live without painting. You'll paint till you die.
Blood, Spirit and Respect 
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You write them out of your life and let karma handle the rest. This way your hands are clean and they reap what they have sown alone.
Been there, Done that... with 3/4's of my family on both sides. After what was done to my grandparents... They got lucky my then boyfriend didn't rip into them like he wanted to (My best friend).
On my father's side, all I have left is my brother and my aunt. With my father's death, we are getting closer...
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If I were God, you'd ALL be in Hell right now...
I believe in Jesus Christ as my savior. If you do too and you aren't afraid to say it, copy and paste this in your signature.
Zen
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ladybard96
The camera doesn't make a bit of difference. All of them can record what you are seeing. But, you have to SEE.
Ernst Haas,
***************
My Gallery-
[link]
I have an uncle who I rarely see except for funerals and he was a total ass to me some months back.
When I went home in July for my grandmother's funeral he had the nerve to corner me in a room and tell me that I was fat and unattractive and that I'd never get a guy unless I started to dress like my sister and wear make up. Now basically my 19 year old sister acts like a tease and a dresses like a tramp.
My uncle went on to tell me that it didn't matter how nice I am and talented I am or how much personality I have, if me and my sister are in a room together everyone will gravate to her stictly because she's prettier.
Then he had the nerve to tell me that if I lost weight and started to act like "normal" girls he'd reward me by taking me on a trip somewhere nice.
What did I do? I threw a fit and bitched to my friends. Then I did nothing. I haven't changed the way I act and I won't change my apparance for anyone except myself.
I saw him again this past month and I all but ignored him and he left me alone and didn't up the last conversation at all.
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And it's no one's fault / There's no black and white / Only you and me / On this endless night / And as the hours run away / With another life / Oh, darling can't you see / It's now or never
"Now or Never"
Josh Groban
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Oh... You say you wanna see my crown??
I'd be happy to take it off... and beat ya with it...
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“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
I am so proud of you. It hurts, and it can eat at you, but stay true to your decision!! That can sometimes be the hardest part. If there is no repentance, there is no reason for it to begin all over again with the next generation.
Thank you for posting this blog!! I am sure you have inspired a lot of people who will read this
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So dear I love him that with him,
All deaths I could endure.
Without him, live no life. ~W.S. Romeo & Juliet~
-What do you care about my opinion? If you're a real painter, you'll paint because you can't live without painting. You'll paint till you die.
Father be with you my sister.
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It went west...
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